Bennie has never given up. Always praying and standing in the gap for the family.
She has remained supportive, standing beside her husband and family through the good times and the difficult times.
Their Story
Thirty years, in six moments
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Valentine's Day, 1996
An unexpected question
It all began unexpectedly in Lagos, Nigeria, on Valentine’s Day in 1996.
Neither of us knew that day would change the course of our lives forever. We met, and from the very first time Fred set his eyes on Bennie, he looked at her and simply asked, “Would you marry me?”
Bennie was completely shocked! It was certainly not what she expected. But somehow, in that unexpected moment, something beautiful began.
She said yes.
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the day itself 
Six months later
Husband and wife
And just six months later, Fred and Bennie were married.
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The years that followed
The family grows
The journey started beautifully. Then came our first son, Frederick Junior, and our family began to grow. In 1999, Efe Kevin was born, followed by Eric in 2002 and Ryan in 2008.
Our home became a family filled with love, laughter, responsibility and, of course, plenty of unforgettable moments.
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Along the way
Seasons they didn't expect
Marriage is not only about the beautiful moments. There were seasons we never expected — financial difficulties and challenges that tested us in ways we could never have imagined. But through it all, we never gave up on each other.
We understood that life brings its own storms, especially in marriage. Instead of allowing those storms to tear us apart, we stayed focused and determined. We held on, believing that somehow, things would work out.
And they did.
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Through it all
We never gave up on each other
Looking back over these 30 years, all we can say is thank God for His faithfulness. His mercy has carried us. His protection has covered us. His grace has sustained our marriage, our children and our family.
We have been through a lot, but we have never given up on each other. Of course, we have had our disagreements. We have fought about things — because we are human! But one beautiful thing about us is that we don’t hold on to those things forever. We forgive, we forget, we move on, and we choose each other again.
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2026
Thirty years of love, grace and forever
From two people who met unexpectedly on Valentine's Day in Lagos in 1996, to husband and wife, to parents, to a family of six — and now to a couple celebrating three decades together.
Living proof that love, commitment, forgiveness and God’s grace can carry two people through the journey of life.
And today, after 30 years, we can look back and say: God has truly been good to us. To God be all the glory.
